6 Ways to Overcome Social Media Overload

We all know social media helps us stay connected to those near and far away. I can browse through wedding and baby albums and send my congratulations in seconds. In return, I can share my adventures with my Handsome and others can see what we are doing since he has been back from training. Staying connected is important and enriching our lives. What happens when you get social media overload and cannot keep up?

You know what I’m talking about…

Alerts on our smartphones, reminders sent to e-mail, notifications on Facebook, mentions on Twitter, and everything in between is hard to manage. I admire the journey Jason Surfrapp is going through. He took a 30-day social media detox. When you run an online marketing business like we do, taking a break from social means no money. I am sure logistically speaking he knew what he needed to do to cover the gap of time. For me, I follow these steps to disconnect to recharge myself and my work to prevent social media overload.

1.  Your time is valuable. Limit the amount of time you are on social media. I have found browsing during a set time frame gives you your fix and get off. Without set limits hours go by and life happens without you.

2.  Airplane mode. I spoke with an Australian business man who reminded me of this feature. Turn your devices to airplane mode to get peace from the outside world. He suggested to do this to get a good chunk of work done. I have done it when I go out for a walk in my neighborhood. It’s your turn to think of clever ways to use this feature.

3.  Do Not Disturb for iPhone. This feature turns off notifications and most calls (contacts not set as favorites).

4.  Uninstall / Reinstall. It is that simple. The app will still be there in the App Store to reinstall when you are ready for it.

5. The cell phone stacking game . Have you played? It is a simple and sure way to get the attention of those you are engaged with at a certain time. My family and friends play it when we go out to eat.

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6. Filters. I am one person. I run a business. My clients think they are my only client. On social media, I am managing anywhere from 2 to 7 accounts a day (on Twitter alone). Every social media platform has filters or customized settings to clear through the noise.

Twitter: use lists effectively

I unfollowed over 150 people and added him/her/company to an assigned list. I can only take in so much on my home feed. When I know to know something about health, I will look at my health/food list. When I need motivation, I will search the #HustleMuscle or quotes list to get it.

Facebook: to be-friend someone or not to-be friend someone — use categorizes

Again, I cannot keep up with over 500 Facebook friends at any given time. I have added categorizes of how we met. Did we meet during school, work, or church? Guess what? You have a filter on your account to help me keep up with your life. The home feed gives me a recap of everyone and sometimes it can be time consuming. “Liked” pages also have this setting with subscriptions. Use them for instant updates or go to them when you are ready to browse the pages interest.

Pinterest / Instagram are straight forward. Follow or unfollow.

 

If you LIKE my business page on Facebook, you will see a common thing happening on Fridays I call a “Friday Focus”. The topic varies by what you suggest or what comes to mind. My goal is to help YOU, the reader, to take away something valuable than you may not have considered before. If you want to contribute to an upcoming Friday Focus, please leave me a comment and we can make it happen. 

How to Give Respect In a “It’s All About Me” World.

Respect is not given, it is earned. Without looking in a dictionary or “Googling” the word respect what does it mean? Ask two people and you will give two different answers. We are to give respect to one another. If my definition is different than yours, how does one known how to give proper respect?

R-E-S-P-E-C-T, find out what it means to me…

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Be Ready to listen. In a “it’s all about me” world, be ready to listen.

It is rare to find and have Empathy or compassion toward someone these days. The illustration of putting yourself in someone else’s shoes helps bring this concept to life.

Shut your mouth. Even is you don’t like it, keep quiet and wait your turn to speak. You will appear thoughtful and wiser if you keep your mouth shut and let the other person speak first.

Pay it forward. What can you do to give back or serve someone else? Your actions will speak louder than your words.

Expect nothing in return. Give respect without expecting it in return. Remember it is earned overtime.

Communicate well. If you can communicate with someone without yelling, raising your voice, or hitting below the belt then you are a pro. Stern and pleasant conversations done well leave both persons walking away with direction and not discomfort.

Speak with truth. Avoid lying at all costs. Respect and trust are hard to rebuild. Don’t tarnish your reputation by lying or stretching the truth.

 

If you LIKE my business page on Facebook, you will see a common thing happening on Fridays I call a “Friday Focus”. The topic varies by what you suggest or what comes to mind. My goal is to help YOU, the reader, to take away something valuable than you may not have considered before. If you want to contribute to an upcoming Friday Focus, please leave me a comment and we can make it happen.

Am I Wrong to Believe There is Hope in Front of Me?

Life is about moving forward. If we move backward, then we are living in the past. Reflect on the past to propel yourself further but sometimes progress is s-l-o-w. Times like this are to remind us, we are growing in an area of our life that took years to develop. Our mindset is always evolving by what we surround and tell ourselves. The habits we have did not form overnight. So why do we expect progress to happen any sooner than it is suppose to?

How do you get from where you are now to where you want to be in life?

  • Find inspirational sources to encourage you
  • Listen to powerful music
  • Meditate
  • Align your life with the vision you have for yourself
  • Inspire others
  • Dream bigger

Two songs that have got me excited for what is to come are “Hope In Front of Me” by Danny Gokey and “Am I Wrong” by Nico & Vinz.

 

If you LIKE my business page on Facebook, you will see a common thing happening on Fridays I call a “Friday Focus”. The topic varies by what you suggest or what comes to mind. My goal is to help YOU, the reader, to take away something valuable than you may not have considered before. If you want to contribute to an upcoming Friday Focus, please leave me a comment and we can make it happen.

Are You Flying Off The Seat of Your Pants? Forecast Before You Launch

Are you flying off the seat of your pants? Are you moving from one appointment to the next? Does your week run together? If you answered ‘yes’ to any of these questions, this article is for you. This article will highlight tips to forecast your week, tools to use, and how to manage your time better. And if you have any tips to share, we’d love to hear them.

The term forecast is related to weather, but as a noun it is a prediction or estimate of future events. If you run a business or are trying to accomplish a goal, you might forecast upcoming events to attend, appointments to make, and other work that needs to get done. Simply put, to forecast your week can be your guide of what you needs to get done instead of what can be done.

Forecast Before You Launch

What does it look like to forecast? We know to map out your week can be tiresome. How are you suppose to know what the next few days will bring? Try to pick a weekly schedule or routine and stick with it. We like to have a daily agenda made at least two weeks in advance for meetings, projects, daily business demands, etc. to commit the time it takes to do whatever IT is.

What does a weekly routine look like? We are a business that runs Monday through Friday with business and outside client commitments. This is a brief description of what we aim to do:

Sunday:  Day of rest, forecast for an hour with calendars*

Monday:  Work half day

Tuesday:  Work full day / Schedule and Attend Meetings

Wednesday:  Blog / Work Full Day

Thursday:  Work half day/ schedule Friday Focus

Friday:  Work half day

Saturday: Evaluate week / Make Note of High’s and Low’s

This routine is a general guideline of what we hope to accomplish each week. It is flexible to a degree where we can move items around. We have learned the more consistent our schedule is the more productive we are on those days.

How do you forecast? We use calendars to remind us of what is important and what isn’t. We limit our forecasting to an hour on Sunday to save us a time later. We have noticed our productivity has increased throughout the week instead of backtracking and flying off the seat of our pants to the next appointment.

We love electronic and hard-copy calendars. We use iCal for Apple and synced it with Google Cal. We know not everyone uses Apple or Google so we chose to use both to maximize our availability and diversity.

iCal synced with Google Cal

We send meeting requests by inviting whom we are meeting with to the meeting through Google Cal. (Since our electronic calendars are synced, the invitation shows up on our iCal as well.) We keep our Google Cal meetings “private” so each meeting shows us as “busy” to those who can view our calendar. Clients who ask to see our calendar can, but we keep the privacy of other client meetings and appointments private. Do you like privacy or public calendar settings?

The hard-copy calendars we use are from Get Buttoned Up (under the Productivity Section). Other great resources can be found here. We download and print out the “too many to-do’s” and make out our weekly list. We use a daily calendar to map out the day here and fill in our productivity for the week here.

The idea is to get ALL your to-do’s off your mind and on a the “too many to-do’s” list.

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When you print out the daily calendar, you can put the to-do on which day fits your schedule or routine best.

Daily ScheduleAnd lastly, evaluate your productivity to see if this is working for you or not. We have used this system for a while now and found the first two to be the most beneficial for us and our focus. The last form we don’t always have time to go back and fill out, but try to review the days to see if we accomplished what we had set out to do.

Weekly Time Management

Now, where to begin? Use the resources we had mentioned or find others to forecast your week better. The key is find what works for you. Not everyone has the same method that will work for you. Ask friends or business partners for tips. And lastly, share your best practices with us and we will be glad to tell others about them.

If you LIKE my business page on Facebook, you will see a common thing happening on Fridays I call a “Friday Focus”. The topic varies by what you suggest or what comes to mind. My goal is to help YOU, the reader, to take away something valuable than you may not have considered before. If you want to contribute to an upcoming Friday Focus, please leave me a comment and we can make it happen.

Make A Change or Be The Change

Everyone where we go, we have options. In a coffee shop, we can have whole milk, fat-free milk, soy milk, whipped cream, or no cream. In a clothing store, we have relaxed fit, boot cut, and straight fit. When it comes to the way we live our life, we can choose to be positive, negative, “religious”, or a non-conformist. The possibilities out there are endless.

Psychology has told us birds of a feather flock together, meaning you are drawn to the things that you associate yourself with. There is no right or wrong in choosing a different path than someone else. And when you find a group or company that aligns with the way you look at life, a special connection forms within you.

Apple has done wonders to make a ripple in the music industry and commercials advertising a different choice of devices. #ShoeDazzle has made a spark in the  world by offering fashionable shoes to everyone out there who loves shoe. And now, LLAG Life has influenced a set of entrepreneurs who want to change the world around them.

What is LLAG Life? It is a company that aims to live, learn, achieve, grow, love, inspire, fulfill, encourage through the talents and passions of hard-working people. I saw a tweet on Twitter that had an eye-catching t-shirt. It was bold and it questioned my mentality as an entrepreneur. Was I bold enough to wear it proudly? I ordered the Jordan Stupar t-shirt in green (of course) and flocked into what Nate at LLAG Life has to offer.

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Do you have a talent? Are you passionate? What can you do to make change in your own life? Embrace your differences and follow the LLAG Life for encouragement on your journey. We cannot do this life alone. It is all about your individual #HustleMuscle and who supports you.

Do you have a new idea? Mantra? Talk to Nate and he can help display it in on a t-shirt to motivate you with his apparel.

Stop! Collaborate and Listen in Conversation

I woke up with an idea of what to share today and was interrupted by the phrase, ” Stop, collaborate and listen… “.

What was the last time you stopped, collaborated with someone, and really listened to them? In my line of work, these are three foundational steps toward a relationship.

Stop, Collaborate, and Listen“If there was a problem, yo, I’ll solve it…”

Stop assuming you can help everyone. On a personal and business level, we as individuals can only do so much to help one another. Maybe you can or maybe you know someone who can. Don’t spread yourself too thin.

Collaborate to see what is the problem at hand. Sometimes it isn’t a problem on the service but a future opportunity.

Listen to what the other person is saying. I read somewhere we must ask the other person three questions before we hog the limelight. Three genuine, connected questions to help the other person build trust with you. Try it!

 

If you LIKE my business page on Facebook, you will see a common thing happening on Fridays I call a “Friday Focus”. The topic varies by what you suggest or what comes to mind. My goal is to help YOU, the reader, to take away something valuable than you may not have considered before. If you want to contribute to an upcoming Friday Focus, please leave me a comment and we can make it happen.

Like Attracts Like

We have heard that we are what we eat, think, or fill in the blank. What about what we want out of life? Do we have any power in connecting with IT?

I think when we focus on what we want, it becomes like a magnet. All we can do is think about it. How can we get it? How can it come to me? We have the power in our mind attract whatever we desire, if you ask.

The two mantras I tell myself day daily are, “Believe in yourself before others do” and “Like attracts like”. The first one may be easy to understand but you can also read my blog about it, too. The second one was something I found to supplement the first.

When I decided to try working for myself by helping others, I could not think beyond helping one client at a time. Overtime I realized my circles of influence was changing. I admired business owners who were making a name for themselves. I dropped the gossip magazines and picked up business magazines. I liked what was in front of me and wanted to learn from those ahead of me.

Like Attracts LikeProof this works: The past two years I have balanced a part-time job with my full-time consulting business. My employer is very flexible and I have been grateful for the past 9.5 years. A year ago I met our new district manager. I introduced myself a little more confident and felt a connection with him and his work ethic. Throughout the year, we would talk about how he got where he was and what my interests were in and outside the company. There was a mutual respect for one another. Earlier this week, I received a personal invitation to attend a Regional District Manager meeting from him. When word got to my immediate managers, eyebrows were raised. Something my district manager saw in me told him I belong in that meeting.

What you like will be attracted to you in these steps:

  • Never stop dreaming. Dream big and continue to dream bigger than you ever thought possible.
  • Visualize your dream to give life to it. If you want a million dollars and all you are doing is playing the lottery, well, change your vision and …
  • Take action. What can you do today to make changes for a better tomorrow?
  • Reflect.Big success comes from smaller victories.
  • Don’t give up.
  • Surround yourself with like-minded people who are going to hold you accountable and push you further.
  • Set a deadline. When you live out your dreams, a deadline can be more powerful than you think. A deadline can be a subtle reminder you can accomplish what you have set out to do.

If you LIKE my business page on Facebook, you will see a common thing happening on Fridays I call a “Friday Focus”. The topic varies by what you suggest or what comes to mind. My goal is to help YOU, the reader, to take away something valuable than you may not have considered before. If you want to contribute to an upcoming Friday Focus, please leave me a comment and we can make it happen.

Big Success Comes From Smaller Victories

I came home from a two-week vacation and found each work day had a long list of priorities ahead of me. I found myself questioning why I went on vacation when all this work appeared impossible to catch up on. I questioned my motives.

Why was I even doing this? To pay next month’s bills? To live another day? The answers were circling my thought process. And then I set smaller goals:  Get through one more day. Survive the week.

Big Success Smaller Victories

Guess what? Each day got a little longer and easier than the day before.

I made a running to-do list. (There was about 50 things I wanted to accomplish.)

I prioritized them. (Business, personal, clients, etc.)

I made action dates to get them done. (What to do on Monday, Tuesday, next week, etc.)

And got to work. #HustleMuscle

When I had a handful of tasks checked off my to-do list, I celebrated by being spontaneous. I ended up getting 42 of the 50 items off my list with time to work in my garden, see Steve-O at the Comedy Zone with my mom, have dinner with my sister and nephew, have lunch with my dad, and catch up with a friend.

Mom and I @ Comedy ZoneWhat does this have to do with being spontaneous? When I started working for the small victories, a bigger success followed. Reward your effort on your own merit system. Find time to put your work aside and come back to it.

If you LIKE my business page on Facebook, you will see a common thing happening on Fridays I call a “Friday Focus”. The topic varies by what you suggest or what comes to mind. My goal is to help YOU, the reader, to take away something valuable than you may not have considered before. If you want to contribute to an upcoming Friday Focus, please leave me a comment and we can make it happen.

You Are Not Defined By Your Job

When our days run together, we exhaust ourselves and ruin the opportunity to relax. Today’s Friday Focus is a reminder to live in the moment. Our commitments to our jobs and other responsibilities take priority. This can run our days but it is the small windows of opportunities to embrace the moments we live for. … Continue reading

The Day I Lost My Strength and Regained A Power I Forgot I Had

When you think of the word strength, the most common definition comes to mind. Simply put, to be strong is to have power. I believe we all have a certain level of strength (or power) inside us propelling us through life. Some people may or may not agree with this.

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Earlier this week, I was having a really bad day. I know days like this happen on occasion but it is the day I lost my strength. I was working on a holiday with less sleep, dealing with grumpy people, and felt physically and mentally tired. I had a choice: give in to negative, power-sucking thoughts or brace myself and start to think positive and move forward. Can you guess what I chose?

I lost my strength to fight through this rough day and felt powerless. My smile quickly turned into a smirk. My hopefully eyes had gone still. The encouraging spirit I carry with me was on the defense. I had become a defenseless and angry shell of a body. The thought of punching a wall, or someone in the face was on the forefront of my mind. I’m serious.

To my surprise, others started to notice my weakness. (I thought I was hiding it somehow.) I received encouraging words and hugs from people I once helped before. I was offered an arm to punch to throw this *funk* out of my system but I declined. And then someone shared how he had regained his strength. He accepted it and moved on. He exercised to mentally prove to himself he has power left in his body. He had told me, “The mind needed a reminder to tell the rest of your body, you are still in control of it.” Does that make any sense? It did for me.

Later that evening, I wanted to cry out my negative emotions and welcome in new ones. Unfortunately, it was beyond tears. I laced up my running shoes and walked outside to my garden. As I watered new life around me, I felt a smile form across my face. With running shoes on, I convinced myself I can tire myself out by running.

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30 minutes later I was sweating, bursting with endorphins, and with a clearer thought: you are an unstoppable force. I wanted to run a mile without stopping, and I did it! I had ran one mile in 12:41 and walked/run my second mile in 15:44.

RunKeeper - RLT stats

I could have stayed home and stayed in my *funk*, or embrace it and fight back. By fighting back, I regained a source a strength to overcome what had taken over me.

If you LIKE my business page on Facebook, you will see a common thing happening on Fridays I call a “Friday Focus”. The topic varies by what you suggest or what comes to mind. My goal is to help YOU, the reader, to take away something valuable than you may not have considered before. If you want to contribute to an upcoming Friday Focus, please leave me a comment and we can make it happen.